Conference tip #2: Be Friendly! Don't Be Exclusive!

Many other writers are attending the conference alone. Be open to conversing with friendly people who approach you, even if they're not in your circle. They only want the same thing you do--a pleasant exchange, relief in knowing they're not the only one who feels nervous/intimidated/excited. You're talking to someone who might become a great friend, a strong supporter, a good critique partner. This person you don't know might even be on bookstore shelves one day--you don't know! (Not that you should befriend people for the potential benefits they might extend to you, but writing is a solitary act--the pecking at the keyboard and such--and it's nice to take a break and visit your friends, even if it's online.)
Remember the golden rule (lifted from the Bible): Treat others as you would have yourself treated.
Go forth and have fun, conference goers!
You are so right that conferences work best when we step to meet and greet people we don't already know. Not my strong suit. (Shy)
ReplyDeleteThis reminded me of what someone wrote in DD's yearbook: "I don't know you but have a nice summer." When I asked her who this is, she said, "I don't know him."
Mirka, re: the exchange with your daughter--haha!
ReplyDeleteTips #1 and 2 are closely related because they ask us to take a risk, step out of our comfort zones.
I do find myself spending too much time at cons with folks I know. I have to keep reminding myself to reach out to new folks.
ReplyDeleteGoing to a larger conference where you probably will not know most of the attendees is a good way to get out there and meet other writers (and maybe and editor or agent or two). Wish I could be going to a conference this year!
ReplyDeleteI know! There are several conferences up north I'd love to attend, but house economy tends to keep me close to home.
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